19 June 2007 Tuesday
Back home from work… then fast fast took nap… =.= really sleepy….
At nite… Fei Leng Sebs asked me few times go gym mou?... I tot he like very keen wanna go gym to9… I say ya going later…. But then he says Vans wan yam cha wor & ask me ask Vans how? …. Dns …. Sendiri dunno ask …. Coz just now Kuku & him makes Vans dulan & quit IRC (actually Vans going dinner with his sis de… geh geh dulan & quit nia) :x based on wat they chat in IRC … I can figured out the story outline…. :x & Fei Leng Sebs so keen wanna yum cha sure he wanna 8 with Vans of wat actually had happen last nite between Vans & ZB ….. :X
So I called Vans ….. he says yum cha later… 9.30pm he fetch Fei Leng Sebs & we go OUG Wong Kok yum cha….
9.30pm…. I called Vans … he just wanna comes out from his house nia…. =.-“ so I go pick Fei Leng Sebs 1st….
I asked Sebs last nite he continues accompanied Vans till wat time? …. He says about 3am …. =.-“ …. & the more they chats the more things been transmitted but Sebs says he actually din says anything bad …. But for sure he dig out something tat been bothering Vans for so long …. Tat’s why after tat Vans called ZB & wan clarification :X
And this makes ZB dulan Fei Leng Sebs …… until ZB sent offline msg in msn to Sebs (coz sebs din online) to scold him 99 :x …. But Sebs says he actually never backstab ZB …. Must be Vans keep questioning ZB & ZB sendiri admitted de :x
But everything between the conversations earlier on either is Sebs with Vans or Vans with ZB …. Oso got no direct effects on Vans & ZB de relationship…..
This is because…..
Did I mentioned tat Vans & ZB actually broke off for about a mth ago ? :x ….. every relationship have it’s own problems…. & yes… some one changed …. & in this case is Vans…. :X it’s a drastic changes …. But it’s not unpredictable … :X
Vans arrives 5mins after we reached Wong Kok ….
Fei Leng Sebs so 8 wanna know every details :X but Vans din tell much details :X … Sebs analyzed Vans & ZB de relationship as leak of deep understanding & communications…
We chat till 12.10am…. then I fetch Fei Leng Sebs home….
7 comments:
it’s a drastic changes …. But it’s not unpredictable …
so good writer ar....
if some 1 wan change ,he'll change very fast...if he dunwan,wat seduce also cant...
wahlau eh... who teach u da english words? :x
Life is full of temptation, sometime we can hold back, and sometime we fall into it.
When our love one made a mistake, what shall we do? just kick him away? Is that the way we love the one we love? I wonder.
speechless!!! lol.. no comment at all.... mou hor fong gou
不要错放了幸福温暖的手
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往往许多人在抉择伴侣时，容易东想西想，不知所措，就是因为害怕一时做错 决定，看错人，造成终生的遗憾。
诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说：“此时此刻在地球上，约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣，就看你先遇到哪一个，如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前，你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜、互相信赖的深层关系，那后者就会变成你的好朋友，但是若你跟前一个人没有培养出深层关系，感情就容易动摇、变心，直到你与这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情，才是幸福的开始，漂泊的结束。
爱上一个人不需要靠努力，只需要靠“际遇”，是上天的安排，但是“持续地爱一个人”就要靠“努力”，在爱情的经营中，顺畅运转的要素就是沟通、体谅、包容与自制 (面临诱惑有所自制)。有许多人总是为“际遇”所迷惑与苦恼，意念不停、欲念不断、争逐不散，而忘了培养经营感情的能力才是幸福的关键。
所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的Mr.Right，而是n问说在眼前的伴侣关系中，我能努力到什么程度、成长到什么程度，若没有培养出经营幸福的能力，就算真的Mr.Right出现在你身边，幸福依然会错过的，而活在犹疑与遗憾当中，这不就是许多“爱情虚无症”的遭遇与心态吗？
若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣，不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了，我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，就是“近亲生慢侮”，也就是经济学中的铁律“边际效益递减法则”，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，而新鲜的“际遇”总是那么动人可爱。
在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心的伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人，当然是跟我们在一起最久、最亲近的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机会，再加上他的刻意讨好，所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了，新欢身上总是有不确定的未知数，旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感、确定感、信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的“际遇”中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。
所以萧伯纳的话，是要提醒情人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一，应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上，同时也提醒我们“弱水三千只取一瓢饮”若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣，就不要再三心二意了，因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个，所以要知福惜福、活在当下。
人说，珍惜眼前的幸福。
我困惑。
因为我实在不懂哪一个人才是我眼前的幸福。。。
come on... I AM VERY PLEASED TO SEE A BUNCH OF GOOD FRIENDS THAT ARE STANDING RIGHT BY VANS' SIDE. HELPING HIM HOLDING ON. BACKSTABBING? CURSING? SCOLDING? you all should know what u guys are talking.
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